AWDTSG Website: How to Check & Get Removed Fast

You get a text from a friend. She says she just saw your name come up in one of those Facebook groups — the Are We Dating the Same Guy group for your city. She does not know exactly what it says. She is not even sure she can screenshot it before the post gets buried. You do not have access to the group yourself. You have no idea how long it has been there, who posted it, or what it claims about you.

That is a genuinely awful position to be in, and it is far more common than most men realize. This guide walks you through exactly what the Are We Dating the Same Guy website and its associated Facebook groups actually are, how to find out whether a post about you exists, and what removal steps have a realistic chance of working in 2025.

What the Are We Dating the Same Guy Website Actually Is

The term “are we dating the same guy website” is slightly misleading, because AWDTSG is not a single centralized website. It started as a network of private Facebook groups, each organized around a specific city or metropolitan area. Women join the local group for their area and post photos, names, and experiences related to men they have met on dating apps. Other members can then reply with their own encounters, flag someone as dangerous, or confirm that they had a similar experience.

Some AWDTSG content has since migrated to the Tea app, Reddit, and other platforms as users share screenshots across communities. So when someone tells you there is a post about you on “AWDTSG,” that post might live in a Facebook group, on Tea, or in several places at once. Understanding that distinction matters because each platform has a different removal process.

Why Men Cannot Simply Search for Themselves

The most frustrating part of dealing with the are we dating the same guy website structure is that men are systematically excluded from seeing it. The Facebook groups are set to private, and membership is screened — most groups require applicants to identify as women and will remove male members who are discovered. Facebook’s own search will not surface the content of private group posts to non-members.

This means a standard Google search for your name is unlikely to reveal anything even if a detailed post about you exists and has accumulated dozens of comments. The only reliable ways to find out whether you have been posted about are to have a trusted female contact check on your behalf, use a platform-specific scanning tool, or consult a professional service that has developed methods for monitoring these spaces.

Our free Tea Checker can scan the Tea app side of this ecosystem for you. If you want to cover both Tea and the broader AWDTSG network, that is where removal services with active monitoring capabilities become relevant.

How to Check If You Have a Post on AWDTSG

Here is a practical sequence, starting with the steps that cost nothing.

Step one: Ask a trusted contact. If you have a female friend in your city who is willing to check the local AWDTSG Facebook group, that is the fastest free option. She can search your name inside the group. Keep in mind that groups are often organized by city name — search Facebook for “Are We Dating the Same Guy [your city]” to find the relevant group and send her the link.

Step two: Scan the Tea app independently. Because AWDTSG posts frequently get screenshotted and reposted to Tea, the two problems often overlap. Use our free Tea Checker to see whether your name or photos have appeared there. This takes a few minutes and requires no account.

Step three: Search adjacent platforms. Reddit communities, TikTok comments, and local Facebook dating-safety groups sometimes carry AWDTSG content as well. A search of your name plus terms like “dating” or “avoid” across these platforms can surface reposts you would not otherwise find.

Step four: Consider a professional scan. If the stakes are high — you work in a profession where reputation matters, you are applying for jobs, or you have reason to believe the post contains false or seriously damaging content — a professional service that actively monitors these networks can give you a more complete picture than self-directed searching.

What the Post Might Actually Say (and Why It Matters for Removal)

Not every AWDTSG post is the same, and the type of content affects which removal path is most viable.

Some posts are factual warnings with screenshots of conversations where someone behaved badly. These are difficult to get removed because they may represent genuine opinion or documented experience, and platforms are reluctant to interfere with what they classify as safety information.

Other posts contain claims that are demonstrably false — wrong identifying information, fabricated stories, or mistaken identity. These are stronger candidates for formal content removal because they can often be framed as misinformation or harassment under platform policies.

A third category involves private images shared without consent. These carry the strongest removal grounds because most platforms have explicit policies against non-consensual intimate imagery, and some jurisdictions have laws addressing it specifically.

Knowing which category your situation falls into before you start the removal process saves time and helps you frame your request correctly.

Removal Options That Actually Work in 2025

Direct outreach to the poster. If you can identify who created the post, a calm, private message asking them to remove it sometimes works — particularly if the post was made impulsively or contains factual errors they are willing to correct. This is not always possible if the poster is anonymous, and it carries the risk of escalating the situation if the conversation goes badly.

Facebook content reporting. You can report a post in a private Facebook group even as a non-member, provided someone shares the URL or a screenshot with the post ID. Reports citing harassment, false information, or privacy violations do get reviewed, though the timeline is unpredictable and the outcome is not guaranteed. Facebook’s enforcement is inconsistent on this type of content.

Group administrator contact. Many AWDTSG groups have administrators who take their moderation role seriously. A well-documented appeal explaining that a post contains false information and is causing you harm can lead to removal at the admin level, which is often faster than waiting on Facebook’s formal review process.

Platform removal services. For content that has crossed into Tea or other platforms, professional services that understand each platform’s content policies and escalation paths produce faster and more consistent results than cold self-reported requests. Our removal services are specifically built for this type of case — including situations where content has migrated from AWDTSG into the Tea app ecosystem. If you have already confirmed a post exists and it contains false or harmful content, this is the most efficient next step.

Legal options. If a post makes specific false factual claims that have caused you measurable harm, a defamation attorney can advise whether a demand letter or legal action is appropriate. This is a slower and more expensive path, and it is rarely the right first move, but it is a legitimate option in serious cases.

What Does Not Work

A few approaches circulate in online forums that consistently fail or backfire.

Creating a fake female profile to join the group and report the post yourself violates Facebook’s terms of service and can result in your account being banned without the post being removed. It also tends to create evidence of deceptive behavior that can complicate any later legal argument.

Mass-reporting a post using multiple accounts or coordinated third parties is against platform policy and frequently triggers anti-abuse systems that deprioritize the reports entirely.

Confronting the poster publicly — on social media, in comments, or through mutual connections in a way that amplifies the situation — nearly always makes things worse. It draws attention to the original post, creates a record of hostile behavior, and gives the poster and her supporters reason to dig in.

Doing nothing is also a strategy with real costs. Posts in active groups accumulate comments, get screenshotted, and surface in searches over time. A post that seems contained today can be the top result for your name in six months.

After Removal: Making Sure It Stays Down

Removal is not always permanent. Screenshots circulate. Content gets reposted. A post removed from one AWDTSG group can reappear in a neighboring city’s group within days.

After you have had a post removed, it is worth setting up basic monitoring so you know quickly if it resurfaces. Google Alerts for your name and variations of your name is a free starting point. Periodic checks of both the Tea app and any AWDTSG groups where you have previously had content removed give you an early warning if the situation returns.

If you are managing an ongoing situation where content keeps reappearing, a longer-term monitoring arrangement through a professional service makes more sense than manually checking every few weeks.

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If you have found something — or strongly suspect something exists — the most useful thing you can do right now is start the removal process rather than waiting to see whether it spreads further. Visit our removal services page to get started with a case that addresses harmful or false posts directly.

If you are still in the information-gathering stage and want to confirm what is out there before taking action, the free Tea Checker is the right first stop. Once you know what you are dealing with, you will be in a much better position to decide what removal path fits your situation.