AWDTSG Lisbon & Portugal: How to Get a Post Removed

You get a message from a friend in Lisbon: someone has posted your name, your photo, and a string of accusations about your dating behavior in a private Facebook group. You do not know who wrote it. You cannot see exactly what it says because the group is set to members-only. Your friend is one of thousands of women in that group, and she is telling you because she thought you should know. By the time you read her message, the post has already been up for two days.

This is the situation hundreds of men in Portugal find themselves in each year — caught in a cross-border content removal problem that most people are entirely unprepared for. The are we dating the same guy Lisbon groups, and their equivalents across Porto, the Algarve, and broader Portuguese-language communities, operate independently of each other and independently of the Tea app. Each platform has its own rules, its own moderation structure, and its own removal process. Getting a post taken down requires understanding all of them.

What Are the AWDTSG Groups in Portugal and How Do They Work

Are We Dating The Same Guy (AWDTSG) is a network of private Facebook groups where women share information and warnings about men they have met on dating apps. There is no single governing organization. Each group is run by volunteer admins who set their own rules, moderate their own content, and make their own decisions about what stays up and what gets removed.

In Portugal, this means there is not one group to worry about — there are several. Lisbon has its own group, Porto has its own group, and there are broader Portuguese-language groups that pull in members from across the country and from Portuguese diaspora communities internationally. A post that starts in the are we dating the same guy Lisbon group can be screenshotted and reshared in any of these other groups within hours, with no notification to you and no central point of control.

The Tea app is a separate platform entirely. It is a standalone app, not a Facebook group, where users can leave written reviews about people they have dated. If someone has posted about you on Tea as well as in an AWDTSG group, those are two distinct problems requiring two distinct approaches. You can search the Tea app directly to find out whether a profile exists for you there before deciding how to proceed.

Why Cross-Border Removal Is More Complicated in Portugal

Most removal guides assume you are dealing with a single group in a single city. The challenge in Portugal is that the market is smaller and more interconnected, which means posts travel faster across group boundaries. Someone in Lisbon may add you to the Porto group on the same day. A member of the diaspora community in Paris or London may screenshot and share in a Portuguese-speaking group abroad.

Each instance of the post lives on a separate Facebook page, moderated by a separate admin team, subject to a separate moderation decision. A successful removal in one group has no automatic effect on any other group. This is not a bug in the system — it is simply how decentralized, volunteer-run communities work. It is also the main reason why professional removal support tends to be more effective than going it alone in these situations. Our Tea app removal services are designed specifically to handle multi-group situations where a single report to a single admin is not enough.

Step One: Document Everything Before You Touch Anything

Before you report a single post or contact a single admin, take screenshots of everything you can access. If your friend shared the post with you, ask her to screenshot the full post including the username of the person who posted, the date and time, all comments visible to her, and any photos included.

This documentation matters for two reasons. First, posts are sometimes deleted by the original poster once they realize the subject has seen it — and if that happens before you have evidence, you lose your ability to demonstrate what was said. Second, if you eventually need to escalate to Facebook’s formal reporting process or consult a legal professional, you will need proof of what existed.

Save screenshots in multiple places. Note the exact name of the Facebook group, which you will need when filing a formal report.

Step Two: Report Directly to Facebook

Facebook has a formal content reporting system that applies to all groups, including private ones. To report a specific post, locate the three-dot menu on the post (your friend may need to do this from within the group if you are not a member), select “Report post,” and choose the most accurate category.

For AWDTSG posts, the most relevant categories are typically:

• Harassment or bullying targeting a private individual
• False information
• Privacy violations (if personal contact details or photos were shared without your consent)

After you submit the report, Facebook reviews it against its Community Standards. Response times vary considerably. Some reports are resolved within 24 hours; others take several days or result in no action at all. Facebook’s automated systems tend to prioritize clear-cut cases, so posts with explicit threats or obviously shared private images move faster than posts with subjective claims about someone’s behavior.

If the first report produces no result, you can submit a second report and request a review of the decision. This escalation path exists within Facebook’s Help Center under “Disagreeing with a decision.”

Step Three: Contact the Group Admins Directly

Group admins in AWDTSG communities have the ability to remove posts independently of Facebook’s moderation system. They can also ban users or lock threads. Reaching out to them is a legitimate step that sometimes produces faster results than the formal report process.

To find the admin list, go to the group’s “About” section if you are a member, or ask a member who is in the group to find the admin names for you. Send a calm, factual message identifying the post, explaining that it contains false or harmful information about you, and asking for it to be removed. Avoid accusatory language. Admins are volunteers, and a hostile message is more likely to be ignored than a measured one.

Not all admins respond, and some AWDTSG groups have policies of not removing posts once they are up. If you hit a wall here, the next step is professional escalation.

Step Four: Address the Tea App Separately

If you have reason to believe you may also have a profile on the Tea app — perhaps because someone told you, or because you have been on multiple dating apps and a pattern of posts is appearing — use the free Tea Checker to find out what exists before taking any action.

The Tea app has its own content dispute process, which is separate from anything Facebook does. Tea allows users to flag reviews that violate the platform’s terms of service, which include prohibitions on false statements and harassment. If a profile exists for you on Tea and contains harmful content, a removal request through professional channels is often more effective than a self-filed report, particularly if the content is borderline rather than obviously in violation.

Step Five: Know What the Law Actually Says in Portugal

Portuguese civil law includes protections for personal honor, reputation, and image rights. The Código Civil allows individuals to seek damages for defamatory statements, and Portuguese criminal law also addresses serious cases of defamation. However, the gap between having a legal right and exercising it effectively is significant.

To identify an anonymous poster in a Facebook group, you would typically need a court order requiring Facebook to disclose account information — a process that is slow, expensive, and not guaranteed to succeed given Facebook’s corporate structure. Legal action is worth considering in cases involving severe, ongoing, and clearly false accusations, but it is rarely the fastest path to removing content. Most people find it more practical to exhaust platform-level options first.

What to Do If the Post Has Already Spread to Multiple Groups

If the same content appears in more than one group — the are we dating the same guy Lisbon group and one or more others — each instance needs to be reported and addressed independently. This is time-consuming to manage alone, particularly if you do not speak to group admins in the same way across different communities.

A professional removal service can work across multiple groups simultaneously, identify all instances of a post, and coordinate the reporting and escalation process in parallel rather than sequentially. For situations involving content that has spread to more than one group, this kind of coordinated approach typically produces results faster than filing individual reports one at a time.

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If you have found a post about you in an AWDTSG group in Lisbon or anywhere else in Portugal, the most important next step is to take action quickly — content that stays up longer tends to spread further. Start with our Tea app removal services for professional, coordinated help across both Facebook groups and the Tea app. If you are not yet certain what is out there about you, the free Tea Checker is the right first stop before committing to any course of action.