Are We Dating The Same Guy? Reddit & Facebook Removal — What Actually Works

"Are We Dating The Same Guy?" lives in two places. The original network is 200+ private Facebook groups; Reddit is where the format spills over — reposted screenshots, discussion threads, and callout communities that copy the idea. If you found this page because you were posted, the removal path depends on which side the content sits on, and posts frequently need both handled at once.

Step 1 — Pin down exactly where the content is

Get the direct link (or an exact description from whoever told you): a post inside a Facebook AWDTSG group, a Reddit thread, a screenshot reposted to either platform, or all three. Screenshot everything with dates before doing anything else — if the content is defamatory you will want evidence, and posts sometimes get edited once removal starts.

Step 2 — The Facebook path

1. Group rules first. Most AWDTSG groups prohibit unverifiable accusations, last names, workplaces, and screenshots leaving the group. Admin reports under the group's own rules are the fastest removals when they land.
2. Facebook Community Standards second. Harassment, bullying, and privacy violations break Facebook's sitewide rules no matter what group admins decide. Reports filed under the correct policy section are reviewed by Facebook itself.
3. Escalation third. False factual claims support formal defamation-based takedown requests. This is the channel that works when admins ignore reports.

Full detail on this path is on our Facebook defamation removal page, and our AWDTSG removal service runs it end to end.

Step 3 — The Reddit path

1. Subreddit moderators. Callout threads and reposted screenshots usually violate the hosting subreddit's own rules about identifying information and unverifiable claims.
2. Reddit sitewide policy. Reddit prohibits harassment and sharing personal information. A screenshot showing your face, name, or details engages those policies directly — filed correctly, these reports are actioned by Reddit, not just the mods.
3. Legal escalation and search cleanup. Defamatory threads support formal legal requests to Reddit, and once content is down, Google's outdated-content process clears the dead thread from your name's search results.

The full process — including archives, caches, and reposts — is covered on our Reddit post removal service page.

What NOT to do

• Don't reply in the thread. Engaging from your own account confirms it's you, gets screenshotted, and bumps the thread's activity and search ranking.
• Don't make a fake account to defend yourself. Both platforms detect it, the group will screenshot it, and it destroys your credibility if you later need the legal channel.
• Don't threaten the poster directly. Threats become their evidence and your problem. Everything effective runs through moderators, platform policy, or counsel.

First: find out what's actually out there

Most people who get told "you're in one of those groups" never see the post themselves. Before paying anyone, establish what exists: our free Tea App Checker covers the Tea app side, and a free AWDTSG case review includes our team searching the Facebook groups for you.